You shouldn't ever mentionned the term "psy me"... I won't resist to such a temptation to use my five cent skills to try to solve your situation... First, you should know that whatever society can make you believe, it is quite rare to say that you have more real and good friends than fingers on one hand... Most of the time, you'll have one, two or even three person you feel really close and have a strong friendship. Next, the number of ordinary friends is more specific to each one of us than common to everybody. I'll call that the social needs level. Some people just have the need to always be with many persons, interacting and have fun. My father was said to be like that by the way. On the other hand, some other will have a low level of social needs, and who'll be perfectly satisfied to speak to two of three persons outside their family without having any real relationship with co-worker outside professional one. In fact, when you feel upset about people trying to interact with you, it's probably caused by the fact that your level of social needs is already reached and your mind want to focus on something else than Public Relations.
Annother reason to such reactions can be the incompatibility between the timing, the type or the manner somenone wants to interact with you and your own parameters (timing etc). Conventions dictates us to contain ourselves in such situation but there's no reason to feel guilty about feeling aggressed or upset because of a incompatibility. If this impression keep going on without any changes or if you don't feel happy with that fast pronostic, you know what to do...
PS: J'espère que mon anglais est comprenable, vu que tu te donnes la peine de commenter en français mon blog, j'ai tenté de répondre dans la langue du message. Le 15.II.2005 Vincent Gauthier
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Date: 2005-02-15 07:33 pm (UTC)First, you should know that whatever society can make you believe, it is quite rare to say that you have more real and good friends than fingers on one hand... Most of the time, you'll have one, two or even three person you feel really close and have a strong friendship.
Next, the number of ordinary friends is more specific to each one of us than common to everybody. I'll call that the social needs level. Some people just have the need to always be with many persons, interacting and have fun. My father was said to be like that by the way. On the other hand, some other will have a low level of social needs, and who'll be perfectly satisfied to speak to two of three persons outside their family without having any real relationship with co-worker outside professional one. In fact, when you feel upset about people trying to interact with you, it's probably caused by the fact that your level of social needs is already reached and your mind want to focus on something else than Public Relations.
Annother reason to such reactions can be the incompatibility between the timing, the type or the manner somenone wants to interact with you and your own parameters (timing etc). Conventions dictates us to contain ourselves in such situation but there's no reason to feel guilty about feeling aggressed or upset because of a incompatibility. If this impression keep going on without any changes or if you don't feel happy with that fast pronostic, you know what to do...
PS: J'espère que mon anglais est comprenable, vu que tu te donnes la peine de commenter en français mon blog, j'ai tenté de répondre dans la langue du message.
Le 15.II.2005
Vincent Gauthier